Are All Men Bad at Social Marketing?

Hello there! If you are new here, you might want to subscribe to the RSS feed for updates on this topic.

It occurred to me as I re-read Ian Chapman’s note yesterday on Facebook
and as I read the comments from various people, including myself,
that while I totally agree that women are Making Waves in Social Marketing because of their natural ability to socialize better and be nurturing connectors,

I have to stand up and say something about all the wonderful men who go out of their way to befriend people on social networks and through social media. You know, the men that “Get It”.

Social Marketing and Socializing are two different things but I feel as if I am torn on the subject of men vs. women and which sex is better at socializing.

Is it really the women? But what is it REALLY about men that make it so easy for them to meet and have instant rapport with people?

Is it because men have little interest about what people may think of them while us women worry too much about being liked?

Is it because men are not into jealousy and don’t care about gossiping about the girl who just walked into the room?

Or is it because men are not into “hating” on people the way some women are.

Come on, you know it’s true, we’ve all done it before.

Women often object to other women for whatever reason.
It’s about competition and staking our claim, I think.

It has always been as easily apparent that men can make friends anywhere, with anyone and it doesn’t take much to get men talking, or socializing.

I mean you throw a man into a bar and he can hold his own and have a great time talking about sports, work, girls or whatever it is that men talk about.

Nothing too deep, they’re not big on communication and soul sharing like us But that’s a good thing. Women are better communicators, period.

But men are also great at making small talk, breaking the ice and having quick interesting convos with anyone. No question.

Now this is not true for all men because some really are the strong and silent type. Everybody knows one of those right? lol.

But the reason I started to think about writing this post is because I got a few messages from men who responded to the comment I wrote on Ian’s note wall.
http://www.facebook.com/home.php?ref=home#/note.php?note_id=27065241084&ref=nf

They disagreed (of course) that Women were better at socializing. And I had to defend Women and my comment because I believe that Women ARE making incredible strides in using the power of social marketing and making awesome relationships.

But these Men who objected, they also made me realize that THEY were the ones who had reached out and connected with me because of the post.
And then it STRUCK me!

It has been mostly Men who have mentored me, messaged me and made strong connections with me and they have been friendly, nurturing and helpful.

And they did it all because they wanted to reach out and connect with people and help them to succeed, just as much as Women do.

Now I know at this point, you might be thinking, “Well maybe they reached out and connected because you are an attractive woman”. Yes this might be true for some but the men who I have had the opportunity to know, like and trust have done it responsibly, professionally and respectfully.

It was a very generous and helpful man that got me off in the right start on Facebook and Social Marketing. Brian Campbell was extremely kind and supportive and had NO problem gaining loyal and grateful friends. He bonded and connected with people who followed his teachings and gained valuable insights into social media marketing and he did it all for Free.

And then one day I had a wonderful conversation with a kind and gentle man who helped me to find my purpose. He explained to me that it was vital for me to give great value to people and to do it freely and from the heart. That very day, I decided that I will work to provide value and help people achieve social and business success through Social Marketing, and I wanted to do it for their benefit FIRST.

Thank you Mr. Warren Whitlock

So to the men who have “connected” with many of us, “Here’s to YOU”
You have been great connectors and friends and we are eternally grateful.

Many of the men who are so helpful and kind to many of us and who we have fostered good relationships and partnerships with are tagged in this FB note but we have “connected” with many more that are not.

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?ref=home#/note.php?note_id=24658195682&ref=nf

This is not to say that women have not been wonderfully receptive as well but I just wanted to take this opportunity to say that men are GREAT at being Social and I don’t think it is the intention of anyone to make you feel unappreciated. We definately, APPRECIATE the Men who make a difference in people’s lives.

I’m a BIG believer in the Law of Attraction, The Law of Gratitude and Paying It Forward so I want to say:

Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Men
(and Women) who are DOING IT RIGHT!

So while it is certainly true that women are, “Rocking It Out” in Social Marketing and making real positive social connections because they push a softer, less aggressive marketing approach,

Men are HUGE social motivators and they provide the other intangible asset that makes social networking great for people who want to make friends, attract clients and network professionally.

Just my thought for the day

friend to all,

Nancy Arroyo-Perez

July 24, 2008

Tweets